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Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Arranged Marriage (Groom)

Darkness would always cover this area, any time of the day it may be, especially in winters. A labyrinth of narrow lanes amidst tightly packed hutments, people swarming in from everywhere, there is hardly any space for light to fit in- however people somehow manage to. But the place is dark, in the deeper sense of word as well. Crawling with goons, drug dealers, pimps; it is no place for a woman. Yet here these women dwell- it is their market, here they are bought and sold…and rented.
It will hurt her to know, that I visit here- often. Yet she must know, wherever in universe she dwells, as it is almost impossible for me to keep it from her. Unlike her, I have never been secretive.
…
1.
I have always been uncomfortable around women. Shyness has never let me put the words right. No doubt I was single throughout my bachelor days. And then we had an arranged marriage.
When I saw her for the first time, in the guest room of her paternal home. I wanted to marry her without a second thought. Love at first sight few may call it, desperation most will. But that was how it was; she was beautiful… and in that pink glittering sari, she was magic!
I had to start the conversation; it was the norm for such kind of meetings. So, like a novice would, I began with the harmless topic of education. She reciprocated, and I noted her sweet voice. (With a hint of nervousness- but then, I was nervous too.)
After lingering from topic to topic, I discovered she had an interest in reading. ‘That is such a good thing!’ I thought. We spotted a common liking there. And somewhere, the conversation eased; at least for me. I wonder what was happening in her head then. We never discussed this topic ever after, perhaps for the better.
I said ‘yes’ of course.
And I thanked all the good Gods, as she did too.
…
I have only one place to visit. Go straight from ‘aate wala chawk’- take right from the butcher shop, 3rd house, and 1st floor.
The mistress, Bimala greets me with a smile on her glossy face, as always. She takes the money and lays the rules; ‘use condom! No anal! No humiliation, just do it and leave’. Any of these rules I’m hinted by the way, can be broken with extra money. I, a man with my own misery, hardly cared.
Bimala knew the one I needed to see, so the part of choosing the girl was skipped. I waited for her, as she was occupied with someone else. Seated on the edge of the chair; I kept hold of the polythene bag I brought, pink fabric falling out of it.
…
2.
It is really hard to guess, what’s happening in a girl’s mind during the ceremony of marriage; especially in the case of an arranged marriage. So when you see her dull, you think perhaps she is scared, and you think, “Let this thing end, I will make it comfortable for her.” Or, what if she loves someone else, and it is all against her wishes, and you think, “But she told me she is not. Was she forced to?”
You whisper into her ears, “Are you ok?” and she nods.
And you sit muddling over her state, and egoistically decide that she is just a little scared; ‘I will make it right.’ And find your way to joy again. I held her hand in the car, when she was all in tears.
“You will be loved.” I told her. “I won’t let you miss a bit of it. I promise.”
I tried keeping that promise till the end. I wonder where I lacked. I now have hint though. She turned then, when we were leaving, gazing through the crowd, as if she was looking for someone.
…
I first came to this place with a man I met at Café Fiesta. He worked for an NGO, engaged in rehabilitation of prostitutes. He was on a mission to rescue a girl out of this web. As I showed interest in his work, he asked me to tag along as he surveyed the area, so as to create a plan.
As we were on a stroll there, He told me the fundamental rules; behave like a customer, Don’t stop at a place for more than a minutes, locate hangout of goons, Don’t visit the victim more than twice (First, to tell her the date, brief plan; Second, When its time.). Frequent visitors are eyed upon.
He mapped all that he had to. He already had an account of who is who, and where is the risk; like a professional. And I was impressed.
My wife, she was a die-hard feminist, I thought. She would have loved to meet him. And lost as I was, after she was gone. I wondered if I could join him with the cause; probably that would take me closer to her. I would feel less lonely.
As I was contemplating, I saw this girl in the balcony. And everything stopped for a moment.
“Lets go!” He said.
I left, with that face, clear in my mind.
It was in news after a few days- a dead body found in the sewers, near ‘aate wala chawk’. The good man, whom my wife would have loved to meet, died.
…
3.
Given a sluggish start with our married life, our honeymoon went great (skipping the details!). Now we were talking freely; she had eased up. I tried being her friend more than a husband, and she did the same.
We would gossip. She would rest her head on me and indulge herself in some novel, while I watched TV. We would laugh together…and do things that couple do.
I finally felt loved. And that life is on the right track. We were planning life, investing intelligently.
Two years passed full of love and joy, we finally felt settled and were planning to have a baby (or two, if twins). Her mother came to visit us, and insisted that we have one soon. Her mother by the way is one of her kind- a radio without the pause button. My mother had the same interest by the way, and thankfully we were all set for it.
Her behavior changed… Drastically. We ended up in pointless arguments. I being the patient one, had to normalize the environment. The stress on her face would however, never go. I missed her smile. I consoled her; we had medication for depression…nothing was working; and I kept wondering what has happened.
The idea of having a baby, needless to say, was postponed.
She started spending weeks at her mother’s. I agreed hoping that would make her ok. She somehow looked better when she returned. And I muddled if I should be happy to see her better; or be sad, that I am unable to keep her the same way.
“I’m sorry!” she said one day. Eyes drenched in tears, unable to form comprehensive words; she somehow managed to say, “I’m sorry.”
“For what?” So clueless I was.
“You remember our neighbor; my childhood friend. I love him; I always have… I cannot lie to you anymore!” While words were being dropped by her mouth as missiles, I thought, ‘I knew!’
“I should have told you earlier…” She continued. “But I had moved on! Its just mumma told me about him…and I met him. He was in a lot of pain… I’m sorry! I’m so sorry!” Should anyone else have slapped her? People who know my story tell me they would have. But I loved her, like I still do (Like mad! People aptly say.) I gathered her in my arms, wanting her to calm down, to have breath.
I was hurt… badly! But I wasn’t angry. (To my own surprise at times, when I think about it.) Of all things I know, she was a nice person.
“You want to be with him.” I asked
She didn’t answer- and there was her answer.
We filed a divorce. And she kept saying sorry; I kept myself strong. Though inside, each of her apologies was breaking me bit by bit. I knew I wouldn’t be able to stop loving her… May be I will care for someone, but not love. But for the kinds of us (me and her…) first love…is first love. It is rather everything.
…
Finally, She was free and it was my turn. Her room, like any other room in the house (Brothel, if you thought so.) was just enough to accommodate a bed and a cupboard; behind the door was the cloth hanger. I kept the packet on bed; and sat at a corner appreciable distance away from her. She knew the drill.
She looked just like my wife (Ex-wife, now that you know.). It amazed me, the first glance at her. I had to come back to be sure. There is a marginal difference, with the nose I think. But similarity has captured me. I come here, whenever I miss my wife (Ex- wife, I apologize…) In the pink sari, this girl brings that magic back from the day I first fell in love (Love at first sight, I will call it; the hell with people!).
To her, my visit was like rest, easy money. She probably considered me crazy…surely did, who won’t? She however knew, I try seeing my wife in her; from a one liner answer I gave to her, for her queries about my stupid idea. She agrees to it.
I was seeing her getting undressed to wear the sari. And I saw a burn below her navel; a recent one, still red. It wasn’t of cigarette (most common for such a scenario) rather from a hot piece of iron to my guess.
“Kya huh? (What happened?)” I asked
“Ajeeb ajeeb type k log aateh yaha! Ek sala sari pehna k khush hai! dusra chamdi utarne ko taiyaar! BehenChod! (Strange people visit here! One is happy with making me wear a sari and other wants to peal my skin off!)” she said while making plates in the sari.
“To kuch dawai lagai koi? (So, you applied any ointment?) ”
“Tujhe kya? Dikhti hai mein tere biwi jaisi! Hai nhi! Ek aaya tha khayal karne wala mera… nikaal lega bola mere ko yahan se, kaat k phenke use nali mein. Tu apne se kaam rakh! (Why do you care? I just look like your life, but I am not. There was a guy who cared for me, he said that he will take me out of here, they butcher him and threw him in the sewers. You think of yourself!)”
“Le ho gya! Jee bhar ke dekh aur phut le! (It's done. gaze as much you want and leave!)” She continued, while putting the pallu over her shoulder.
…
That day, I couldn’t see her- my ex-wife, my love in this woman in front of me. I just remembered the good man I met; and that wonderment I had.
“That’s the right way to be close to her.” I whispered to myself.

P.S. My ex- wife is no more. They both passed away together, she and her childhood love. I work for welfare of prostitutes. My ex-wife’s look-alike is now rescued.

Friday, March 14, 2014

Arranged Marriage (Bride)

"A bride cannot look more beautiful." He stated, leaning in from behind my mother. "And of course no oldie can look as beautiful as you aunty!" He rested his chin on her shoulder. She giggled while touching his cheek in a slapping gesture and told him how handsome he was looking as well. He indeed was looking handsome.
He sat besides me, enquired, "Nervous hai?” He was my best friend.

1.
He loved rains.
"Come out! It has stopped raining.” He said, when we were naive little kids.
"No it hasn't!"
"Its just a drizzle!" he insisted.
I had to go, he had already made the paper boats.

Our boats went long way down the channel; we ran along side and removed obstacles from their path. Soon all our boats sank and we couldn’t think of anything but walk back home. We hopped into pot holes full of water, joked, laughed… and between all that it began raining cats and dogs before we were half way home. He had a raincoat and an umbrella; I had an umbrella that wind took away from me. He covered me with his; he also brought me in his oversized raincoat. Even as a little girl, I felt something in those necessary moments of closeness. I can only diagnose it as an uncomfortable comfort.
Isn't it strange how we always had the sense that they are different- boys; yet, I had this sense that this boy, with his arms around me, was different from those other boys. He had won my trust so early, when trust was so difficult to spell, and meant blah!
......

He was there laughing with my brother. Though my brother was quite younger than him, they got along really well. In fact he meant a lot to him.
He meant a lot more to me.

"Madam! Here! A little smile please." A photographer brought me back from some neverland.
My to be husband smiled and asked, "Are you ok?"
I nodded with a smile.
"He is a nice guy. "I told myself, "I would be happy with him."
But then, He was not that person who just went on the dance floor, whose body was consuming every beat of music, every noise from the crowd, to form serene flawless movements, I thought.
He was a wonderful dancer.

2.
At one point, somewhere near junior high, when he like every other guy became a cricket maniac and would spend most of his time with his guy group, I somewhere made a guy of myself. I would watch matches so that he could discuss them with me rather than those nut-heads he was seen in school with. I would offer him to play FIFA with me (That he would politely refuse- thankfully!). He wasn’t always there. But he was always there when I needed him; to help me with mathematics, to defend me from bullies. He even agreed to learn dancing with me, for I was not allowed to travel to dance school alone. He was born to dance (and to play cricket; and to top in mathematics). I took time- and bandages to catch up to him. But then we perfect together; we expertized salsa.

"Isn't it wonderful?" I asked him from the 9th cloud when we won inter school dance competition.
"Yes, it is." He smiled.
We went quiet. Our moms were waiting for us in the parking. We were walking to them through the empty corridors of our school.
"You didn't ask what is wonderful?" He glanced at me.
"What?" I wondered.
"Your face with such a beautiful smile- it is wonderful."
I clung to his hand, rested my head on his arm "And you are wonderful."

It was 12th, year 2008. We were in love.
I left his arm, and created appreciable distance as we turned to the parking.

…..

Fire was burning ahead and inside. Mantras echoed and the proceeding continued. I hardly lifted my head the whole time, afraid that a glance of him would break me. And that shouldn't happen, at least at this point of time... Ever!

Later, I was told that he wasn't there. He engaged himself in some work, to miss the ceremony. It at least gave a glimpse of what was happening inside him; my wonderment over how he could smile and laugh and dance... somewhere blurred. Even if a little late, I at least learnt that we were sharing a similar pain. A comforting thought it was, in its own way.
He wasn't there at bidai as well... We never met thereafter.

3.

My family loves traditions. As I grew I realised this love of theirs boosted in them hatred to all those who don't follow them. My mom would talk endlessly about how people who went for inter-caste marriages have put their families down... How these people are unable to appreciate all the love and care their parents gave them for years. And my father, he wouldn't say anything; but his take on this point was implied. And I must tell you, my parents were not orthodox, they were rather pseudo-modern. Keeping some from the old and adapting as pleased from the new. Letting me to be friends with a boy for this long is an example of that. In fact, I tend to believe that we were let to have this friendship for he was family-zoned quite early. But then he was from a different caste, and being anything more than a friend would have been a ridiculous thought for them. Love was a ridiculous thought for them.
I knew I would never be able to tell them.
His family was no different in that sense. But he was a boy, and at least in India this makes a difference. He could have fought for me... but only if I was able to fight for myself. I would never be, I knew.

College was over, so was a wonderful, fulfilled and love filled life. After a year in job, I was introduced (I want to write 'shown' here) to my to be husband.
He talked and I wondered about the spontaneity of this change in my life. I replied like it was an interview.
"I don't want to get married." I ponder at times about my ability to have said it. If I would have been asked that is.

"I will have to get married." I said, as I met him after office. He had come to Mumbai especially to meet me. 
"I know." He replied.
"So...?"
"So... let's get married." Either he meant it or hoped a smile. It brought irritation.
"You don't understand! It is all easy for you!"
"What do you want? That's the only question then... and it is yours to answer. But before you bring out your decision, you must know that I love you… "
There was no decision to be made; I called him to tell him what my mind had already decided. He somehow had a hint of it... Why wouldn't he? After knowing me more than anyone- myself.
"Let's end what we have now and here. Let's be normal at home."
"And never meet after the marriage." He added.
"Yes..." I whispered.
I couldn't hold it, and my eyes drizzled. He embraced me and I sank in.
"I love you." He said as he kissed over my head. I chose not to reply and gathered myself.

...


How did I end up? Just fine I would say. You learn to love with time, when loved like my husband do.

His thought rarely crossed my mind... My best friend, my first love. It all got locked somewhere within me, never to come out.
It came out just today, when mom in her gossip told "Woh saamne wali sharma-in ka beta, tere bachpan ka dost, Shaadi hi nhi karta... mujhe toh lagta rha koi affair waffair rha h uska. Ma baap k baare mein sochte hi nhi bacche.. sukr h bhagwaan ka tum log sahi nikle... Tera toh kitna acha dost tha, baat kar usse, samjha.. shayad maan jaaye..."


Friday, January 24, 2014

A Story.

"I have the ability to instantly fall in love." I said. She laughed like anything and her scooter did a little zigzag on the road. I, the pillion should have been afraid, but I was smiling. We stopped for ice-creams. A girl shouldn't eat ice-cream with a guy watching her, it does things to him. Lips and cream, her little giggle (as I joked to cover my admiration); and a song in the back of my head "Kabhi ajib si, kabhi haseen lagti… “That was the instant. I wasn't lying.

She went down the hallway running and turned. Her hair swirled and landed over her shoulder. She shouted, "you are too slow." and it echoed. "And you are too beautiful." I replied and it echoed too. She stood there smiling and I paced up to reach her. She grabbed my arm, or hugged my arm and smiled. We both did. I wanted her to know that I love her, but we were best buddies, and it was the most difficult thing to do.

Some of her hair somehow landed into my mouth when we were travelling together... always. It was annoying. I was sitting beside her in a three-wheeler, we were returning back from her shopping spree. She realized it was happening again and started tying her hair into a bun. While doing that a lock came over her face and she pulled it back. I held her hand while she was holding the bunch, brought it down, and let her hair fall over her shoulder. "Kya?" she wondered. "Nothing." I replied. Confused, she started tying her hair again and one lock of hair came over her face again. "Let it be" I said before she could pull it back. "It will make any guy to fall in love with you." I smiled. She let it there, kissing her cheek; while I controlled my urge to.

If I hadn't hugged her that tight, I wouldn't have known her pain of letting me go. Her heart beats told me about it. It was 10 minutes for my bus to leave. And she stood there, grabbing my arm, or hugging my arm. I had told her that I love her and she had maintained that I am her best friend... just that.
"I'm sorry, I didn't fall in love with you.“ She whispered.
"I'm sorry, I didn't remain the best friend you wanted me to. “
She smiled, "You will always be my best friend. “
"I will be leaving now, is he coming to pick you?" I had to say something to break that silence- the imprisoning silence.
"Yes-Yes…” She smiled a smile that barricaded her tears. "I wish you never had to go. “
She hugged me. Wind blew, some of her hair landed into my mouth. I saw her boyfriend emerging on the platform.

We weren't supposed to meet, me and her. I had disconnected all routes of communication there could be. Years had passed, and we both had moved on with our lives; yet of course memories pinched in the voids of time. On that hot summer day, in the capital city, somebody tapped my shoulder. She had hardly changed. It was in fact only four years, they seemed decades long though. Face hardly changes in four years.
"Hey!!" I said.
"At least you remember my face." she smiled.
"How have you been?" I missed a metro.
Heart beats have their own stories. Mine talked about remembering a lot more than face. Hers.. I don't know, about missing a friend may be.
She have been fine, successful.
We both had nothing much to do. I had, but it hardly mattered. We went to a cafe.
After lingering onto various topics, I enquired about her boyfriend.
"We aren't together anymore." They looked wonderful together, I knew.. and somewhere I prayed they get married.
They believed it was never going to happen, and it was time for her to get married; she would be, by the end of year.
I wished her luck. Hope of being with her had already died in me years back. I just hoped that she finds happiness. I prayed.
While walking back to the metro station, she stopped at a ice-cream stall.
"Ice-cream?"
"Ok."

A girl shouldn't eat ice-cream with a guy watching her. It does things...